Resolution or Accomplishment – lets build this year on the positive note…
“I’m opening a gym called Resolutions”, It will have exercise equipment for the first 2 weeks and then turn into a bar for the rest of the year”
“My new years resolution is to stop lying to myself about making lifestyle changes“
So, what is your New Year’s resolution?
For the past couple of years, I have really dreaded this question! It feels like I have to find something wrong about myself and try to fix it within the year. If not, I have once again failed – as I seem to do every year. Coming close to completing the resolution does not count, which is too bad because I have come so close, so many times!
As a result of these yearly failures, I have started to re-think my approach to resolutions. I am not going to say they are a waste of time. I have just adjusted my thinking, which has helped me to feel a lot better about the progresses I am making in my life.
Let’s look at the definition of resolution and accomplishment
- Resolution: a firm decision to do, or not to do something – the action of solving a problem, dispute or contentious matter.
- Accomplishment: something that has been achieved successfully – the successful achievements of a task.
I have found in the past, that when I set resolutions, I am starting from a negative place. I am looking to solve a problem. Whereas now, I have decided to focus on the positive, by looking at my accomplishments.
Change your thinking towards resolutions
I have found that instead of putting myself in a win/lose situation – which creates unnecessary anxiety and pressure in my life – I will focus on the positive. What does this mean? Simply, I focus on the accomplishments I made over the past year and then look at ways I can improve or build on them. Starting from this positive mind state, really helps to motivate me.
I find that looking at what I have achieved, helps to give me the positive encouragement I need to continually improve myself. It also let me know, that I have had success in the past and there is nothing stopping me from having more.
Here is an example that someone might use:
A resolution: I will stop smoking in 2017
An accomplishment: I cut smoking cigarettes from 10 to 5 a day, in 2016.
To help you to take your mind of the dreaded resolutions, lets look at the accomplishments. You cut your smoking in half! Which is a good accomplishment. So now, you need to build on it. Before you start, you need to be honest with yourself. This means not setting yourself for failure by creating unrealistic goals that you know you cannot complete.
Instead of looking at the end result, plan some realistic steps, that will help you to build on the accomplishments you made in 2016.
Things to think about when planning to reach your goal:
- Specific – your goals needs to be specific and clear on what you want to do. So, it is a good idea to write this down, so you can always remind yourself. I find having a journal is a good idea.
- Measurable – Add numbers, percentages and whatever makes it easier to quantify what you want to achieve (i.e. I want cut the amount of cigarettes I smoke in half).
- Attainable – make sure that what you want to accomplish is possible (not setting yourself for failure).
- Relevant – Goals should be aligned with your life.
- Deadline – You need to set a deadline, as well as check-points to make sure that you are progressing towards your goal.
The last thing I would like to add, don’t feel you need to share your goals with everybody. If you really want to share with someone, choose carefully and try to avoid negative, doubters or skeptics people – this will only effect your end results. There are also thousands of self-help books out there that might help you get motivated as well…
Good luck on your journey!